Overthinking in a relationship is a problem, but it’s not unbeatable. Use the tips below, to stop spiraling through the cycle of overthinking in your relationship.
A lot of relationships die. But why? Why do relationships die? Do they have to?
Some people would argue that relationships have a life cycle and dying is just part of the life of a relationship. I disagree -- relationships don't have to die.
The reason why relationships die is because we stop making them grow. Change is inevitable. Everything in this world is changing -- either growing or dying. So if we stop making our relationship grow, obviously it's going to die.
Here's a social media post I wrote about the secret of why relationships die.
So what changes in relationships from when they're growing in the beginning to later on when many relationships start to die? Our focus changes from feeling true love for the other person to getting loved ourselves. We change from wanting to meet our partner's needs to wanting to get our own needs met.
But if focusing on our partner is what made the relationship grow in the first place, why stop? Everyone needs to answer that question for themselves.
Most people in dying relationships have their reasons for not making loving their partner a priority anymore. But there's no denying the facts of what distinguishes a growing relationship from a dying relationship. And for those of us who want to have our relationships grow again (or prevent them from dying) there's no better place to start than back at the beginning. Remember when you were:
Why do relationships die? Because we stop doing the things we did in the beginning that made it grow. And that starts with focusing on them not us.
What do you think is the reason why relationships die? What are some other things we typically do at the beginning of a relationship that we stop doing later on (Eight Reasons Relationships Die)? Please share your thoughts in the comments below.
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Overthinking in a relationship is a problem, but it’s not unbeatable. Use the tips below, to stop spiraling through the cycle of overthinking in your relationship.
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I like this so very much
Perfect understanding is the key to keep your relationship alive. If both the persons trust each other, understand each other's feeling then there are more chances to increase the love in your relationships.
I view love as a verb. Ask them what makes them feel loved,Listen and act on it often,get creative with it, expand on it. Make it an adventure. Make it happen. Enjoy the journey.
My marriage is currently dying because my husband is no longer the man I married. The attentive, kind man who went out of his way to make me feel loved and appreciated is gone, replaced by a surly, yelling couch dweller who ignores or grumps at me, unless he's trying to get sex, which is always all about him, awful, painful, and leaves me feeling soiled and used. This began not long after we got married. 5 years later, it's to the point where I'm ready to leave. Why should I stay? I spent the last 4 years trying to resolve these problems, to be ignored. Recently, he claims he wants to fix things, but "doesn't have time"; maybe I need to "not have time" for him.
I did not see this until she told me she can not do this anymore and broke off our relationship. It turned out to be a big blow out and I pleaded for another chance. Reluctantly she did give me another chance. From that point I struggled to get myself back, I knew I was not myself and "my true self". In the past 4 years I have told her that I did not like myself and that this is not me. "Her words" We would argue about trivial things and I would blow up and walk away to avoid confrontation. Then I would return all calm as if nothing had happen. She would get furious, but she would hold it in and let it go. She tried to help but I was being blind. I denied being depressed when she suggested it and she continued to try everything. About 6 months after the"2nd chance" I started to realize I need to do something and started to look at my life. I went thru a bitter divorce and child custody battle. I lost everything to a women that had no entitlement to what she received. I did get primary custody of our daughter, but I was still anger. I carried this thru out those years and it made me a person I did not like and as I stated before. I seen that and wanted to change so much but couldn't. Finally at the beginning of 2019 I finally got the drive I use to have and said enough is enough. She said I was a man of intentions and from this point forward I was going to do actions not words. Slowly I made changes, what I consumed and change my diet, taking better care physically, stopped watch new that made me angry, started with vitamins and began getting to my energetic self again. Just as I am showing all these changes and having positive signs of improvement in our relationship and my motivation. She comes to me almost 1 year later and says she can not put anymore into this relationship. She acknowledges me treating her better and sees I am starting to be motivated again. But she is sticking to her "gut" feeling to end this. We had a weeks vacation at the shore at a family house. in fully talking to my very successful cousin about everything. He said I was depressed like you and it is a hard road. I never seen myself as "Depressed" and then it hit me. After a week talking with him and confiding things to him. He made it clear in my mind I need to research this and it comes to find out. 9 out of the ten "most common signs of depression" I have. I have spent several weeks researching and even though I do not have a clinical diagnoses that I was depressed. All the signs are there, but know she does not want to recognize this. It has been almost three months now and I still have been moving forward even though she is insistent to dissolve this relationship, but I told her over and over. I am going to fight for this relationship until we walk away from each other. She now moved to the next level of how to separate our joint ventures and I am still treating her with respect, love and desire for her. She is a strong minded person and insists we are not compatible. I do not believe that is true because the first 4 years we great and I am now feeling like I did back then. I am now give to Feb 2020 to get myself situated to move out. I am doing everything I can to save this, I am even writing poems that I use to do in the being again because I am finally myself again. These past 4-5 years have been tormenting on me and she seems to thing I should have been able to "manage them, not them manage me". I have always been strong and I fell down at a time she needed me most and I realize that, but I strongly believe now I was depressed and that is why "I fell down". I don't know what to do next and I feel I am losing the most beautiful minded and most beautiful hearted person I ever knew. How can I save this?????