What can you do if you think My Husband Is Not Physically Attracted To Me?
Most guys believe what turns women on about men is . . . being tall and good looking, having big muscles and six-pack abs, hair on our heads, and definitely having a big house, fancy car and the financial means to give them whatever they want. Wrong - this maybe true for some women, but not for most.
What turns women on about men is not so obvious nor is it something you can buy. It's not something some guys have and others don't. It doesn't even require special skills or good fortune. It's something every guy can do and can start doing anytime.
Here's the secret . . . women get turned on by men by our behavior. Here's a social media post I wrote that will start to give you an idea about what I mean.
There's a very important point is this post: Guys often complain to me about not getting enough sex. But they miss (really ignore) the connection between their behavior and their partner's lack of desire to have sex with them.
Here's a real life example of how men can turn women on: A woman I was counseling this week told me about a time when her husband stood up in a board meeting and took a stand on an issue that was important to her. She said she was so turned on that she texted him during the meeting that he'd be getting a special sexual favor from her later that night. This is a guy who's in counseling with me partly because he struggles to show his wife that she's important to him and he loves her. But when he did, look at her response.
What turns women on about men is our behavior.
These things don't require a lot of money, hours in the gym, or a different genetic make-up. They do require effort though. There's only one Brad Pitt, but every guy can do what turns women on about men by choosing the right behavior (here are more ideas on ways to turn her on).
Come on guys, let's stop complaining about not getting enough sex and making excuses for our bad behavior. We all can do a better job at what really turns women on about men.
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While I feel there is a lot of truth in this post I have to say that this is not the case for every woman. Myself, my wife left and told me I am a great dad, great husband, but that she only was leaving because she felt as though she was missing out on life (we were high school sweet hearts). I am still stunned to this day and my children are torn.
Thank you alot its really helpful information and advice.
As a woman,I can validate this article as t r u t h.
I am still waiting for a lengthy article. Like the ones we write to tell women what to do for our men
I do agree with you, Kurt Smith, because it has been proved to me to work in practice. I have a female friend (whom I think will soon be my girlfriend) and simply by truly respecting her and showing that she is important to me, I feel that I have a very special place in her heart.
Thank you very much for your really useful article. Keep up the good work! ☺
Never stop respecting her and most importantly never stop showing her how much you respect and love her