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There are a lot of out of date and inaccurate pornography statistics on the web. Surprisingly, counter to the high level of usage, not much scientific research has actually been done on porn use, and its effects on viewers and their partners. If you take a look around you'll find a lot of numbers from the early stages of the Internet, like the late 1990s and early 2000s, but not much that's more current and reliable.
It turns out that nobody wants to talk about porn, even scholarly researchers. The limited pornography statistics that are available are almost entirely based upon self-report. In other words, asking a man, "Do you look at porn?" Asking someone to be honest about something they do in secret, are ashamed of, and do everything to hide is naturally going to be fraught with the potential for error.
Nevertheless, I've selected several pornography statistics from several recent studies and will explain what they really mean by putting them into real world examples. After all, what purpose do the percentages really provide (other than shock and awe) if we don't know how to apply them to our own lives.
Men look at pornography (big surprise, I know). The truth is that a lot of men do. In fact, it's most men.
Simply put, about 3 out of 4 men are looking at pornography. Understandably, the number is higher among younger men and lower among older. Some findings show as many as 90% of young men look regularly, but even men over 50 years of age look -- about 50% of them.
For years most of the women I have counseled have told me they never thought their guy watched porn. "I knew other men did that, but I never thought Greg would." If you're still thinking like this, it's time to change your thinking.
How often do men look? Well that varies. Those who are addicted will look a lot. Heavy users can watch porn and masturbate as much as 10 times a day. Some men look a couple of times a week or even a few times a month. While the frequency may lessen the impact it doesn't change the negative influence pornography has on the viewer.
Pornography stats from a popular porn-sharing site (will go unnamed) estimated that 88 billion porn videos were viewed worldwide in 2015. That is 10 billion more than in 2014. This single website alone gets 2.4 million visitors an hour and had 4,392,486,580 hours of it's videos viewed in 2015 (nearly 4.4 billion hours). A website traffic measuring company found 107 million visitors to porn sites in February 2016 just from within the U.S. alone, nearly double from 10 years earlier.
Does being married or in a relationship make a difference in using porn? Nope. Not surprisingly, statistics on pornography show more single men look than married, but the difference isn't as big as one would think. One study found more than 2 out of 3 single men look regularly; while a little more than 1 in 2 married men said they do.
One of the problems I am frequently treating today is helping men who are now married or in a committed relationship stop doing the habits they had when they were single, like watching porn or staring at attractive women in public.
More women watch now the latest pornography statistics reveal. Some research has found 34% of young women look. Another study found the percentage of young women looking to be much higher and very close to that of young men, but this trend drops off dramatically for women over 30 years of age.
How do people access it? While Internet pornography can be accessed from any Internet enabled device, one method in particular has become the preferred choice. Smart phones were used to view porn by more than 50% of users in one survey.
One common approach stopping porn viewing is using Internet filters or apps that restrict access to porn sites. Unfortunately, apps and filters aren't enough. A recent study found more men with filters installed were looking at porn than those with none. Good intentions and "trying" just aren't enough when it comes to pornography. It's too easy today to get around the different tools available to restrict access. Sadly, the fact is that porn is everywhere.
What can you do? First, take pornography statistics seriously, as well as the likelihood that a man you know is watching it regularly. Second, learn more about porn's effects and why it is bad for you. Finally, get help. No matter if you're a man who wants to stop or a woman who loves a man who's struggling -- we all need help. The truth is that ignoring the risks of pornography or trying to manage it on your own is a mistake.
Here are a couple of older, but nevertheless interesting, pages with more info on porn use - 1) More Statistics on Porn Addiction; 2) An Infographic on Porn Addiction in America.
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My husband is 67 and I am 64 we recently adopted a 3 year old foster child so I retired and am full time homemaker and. Mom.
He is still working. I do everything plus take care of elderly moms needs.
He has ED has for 7+ years testosterone and blue pill don't work most time.
My desires low because low testosterone and schedule.
Most times it doesn't work so why bother but we still do it 1 or 2 times a week. If I am not responsive he withdraws and says I am not interested in him and would be happy without sex? Sometimes it is another thing to do. I have tried to talk to him but he pours and withdraws because I an not swinging from chandelier???
Help
Cindy, His internist should be able to help him with any issues he has with medications and ED. If the issues are deeper rooted, consider seeing a professional marriage counselor to see if you can figure them out. -Kurt
I have looked at porn for decades. I developed an addiction in February for a few weeks. Then again, for a week recently. Working on self-esteem definitely helps.
Danny, It's great you realize that you're developing an addiction. Consider seeking treatment sooner rather than later - it'll be easier to recover from it the sooner you start. -Kurt
I have very High morals about loyalty in a relationships, I honestly believe that a natural love making, should be created by two people, and it should be on the act of how two people can creatively express their true feeling about someone, not to perform an act of sex from a porn movie. Porn movies dictated to people acts of positions. Love making is played out because those emotions can’t be shown. Too long of a seen, porn movies can’t exchange your own expression of love, and loyalty and commitment.
Creative thinking and built up gratitude and true emotions is something that I believe that keeps making love, growing to a healthy and long relationship. It's been 16 years of a relationship that I have been through and I have come to the conclusion that porn has been hurting our relationship for years, my partner watches porn like going to the bathroom. Every morning when leaving out of the house, he watches porn and take care of his business. I thought it was because of the age difference, he’s 74 and I am much younger.
Sometimes I would be waiting for some action of a man wanting his woman, like caveman, but instead for the whole night he watches the TV or the walls while I am sleep. As soon as I leave to go to work he watches that porn. I know my partner watches porn every morning when I leave out to work. I have done my investigation. At one time hated him watching porn and took offensive to it, but I sat back and watched him as the man he represents.
Then after understanding the type of man he was growing up, it took me a while to understand that my partner stop giving up the sex to me, not because I could not perform, but he was not happy in himself and had little to offer. I believe that porn movies is a great distraction of people working hard for their relationships and with porn it makes it just that easy to have a fast result, and no guilt.
For me I would never get over my man watching porn, even thou I have accepted him watching it. It disgusts me. He will never stop watching it, Even if it cost him everlasting happiness. He has an addiction to sex from other partners, off screen and on. I just have to make up my mind when to leave.
I have recently discovered that my boyfriend is watching a lot of porn.... What scares me is a lot of it is teenage girls.... Is this normal or is this completely sick and a sign I need to run.... We have been dating for over a year now so it's pretty serious.....I really need some advice ASAP PLEASE!!!!
Sunshine, Porn addiction is a tricky thing to deal with, and it can become progressively more deviant. If he is addicted, he will have to want to get help to stop. -Kurt
But it's it normal to be looking at teenage porn? He showed me the site and said he just clicks on the pictures....?
Please, someone tell me how to cope with this addiction. I can't leave now, we are just getting back financially, he doesn't know I know what he's doing.
He treats me great, except, he says he doesn't love me romantically anymore, after 25 years...he videos himself, pleasuring himself, and posts it somewhere online. He is writing a story - about his life with another and their sex life and love. But, he uses lots of events and memories of OUR special moments. This has to be the most painful, shameful and humiliating thing I have ever been through. How does a man throw away all we worked so damn hard for. Just when we were ready to sit back and enjoy the freedom of the kids being gone, and the next chapter of the dream we shared.
I simply don't know how to keep going. We have 3 more years of our last child in college and I can't risk him walking out. He may stop working and not help keep up the mortgage and the college costs. Oh, I didn't mention he is prone to depression and smokes pot like cigarettes. How do I get thru this. Any suggestions from those who have survived this?
Patty, Porn addiction is tricky, and he may not know he is addicted. Keep in mind that he will have to want the help to recover from it. Read the articles in the Porn Addiction section for some ideas about what you can do. - Dr. Kurt