Do people have Regrets After A Midlife Crisis? Yes, many.
Why would anybody ever want to join a midlife crisis forum? Unless you find some enjoyment in reading about others' pain, the only reason would be because you're in one yourself, or love someone who’s experiencing a midlife crisis.
No one expects to have a midlife crisis, which means nobody is really ever prepared for one. And although a midlife crisis doesn’t have to occur at midlife and can, in fact, occur at any stage of life, few of us have ever experienced one before. So, it isn't until it happens to you that you even want or need to learn about them.
But when you suddenly find yourself or someone you love in the midst of a midlife crisis it can feel pretty overwhelming, lonely, confusing, and scary. It's understandable that you’ll want to connect with others who are going through the same thing. And a midlife crisis forum is the perfect place to do just that.
As most of us already know, an internet forum is a place where people share ideas, their experiences, and offer each other help. The midlife crisis forum at Guy Stuff Counseling is a little different, however, in that it offers much more.
Our forum conversations use the blog articles from our website to guide us through discussions around the challenges of dealing with and understanding a midlife crisis. We address the issues facing both the men and women who are suffering from a midlife crisis and the difficulties of those who find themselves having to cope with the consequences of them.
The real-life stories I share offer a glimpse behind the closed doors of other people's lives. Although everyone’s experience is unique, there are commonalities that are present in every story – pain, erratic behavior, disruptive and destructive consequences are a just a few. By reading these stories I hope you'll feel like so many other readers have and realize you’re not alone in your struggle.
Within our forum you’ll to hear from a professional therapist who provides treatment for men and their partners experiencing midlife crisis. Through the articles and comments, you'll get expert advice on how to handle midlife crises. I'll share counseling secrets and insight into how both men and women think about midlife crisis to help you better understand the intricacies of what you or your loved one are going through. As you read the articles and the questions they address you'll become more clear on what’s happening, and the pain and confusion will actually start to make some sense.
Donna, one of our participants, had this to say,
As Kurt said, take time to read through all the midlife crisis articles on here if you have not done so already. They have been helpful and calmed me down a bit. Be strong and know that you are not alone." -Donna
If you’re tired of feeling confused and possibly depressed, this is a good place to begin healthy change. We strive to focus on how to take the positive and healthy steps necessary for you to find your happiness again.
Unfortunately, many midlife crisis forums just become a place to gripe. While venting can often be healthy, too much of it just keeps everyone stuck in the problem. What really makes this forum different is that it's structured around blog articles, so it combines expert advice along with connection to others who are in the same place you are. You can ask other commenters questions and engage with other readers. Connecting with others who understand can make this crisis a little less scary.
According to Susan,
This site has helped a lot of us, hope it helps you. I'll be praying for you, stay strong. Read the other stories and the advice Kurt has given us. Here for you when you need support. Be strong!" -Susan
Participating is easy. Just follow the steps below.
Here's how to use our midlife crisis forum:
We welcome everyone, both men and women, to join the conversation. You can remain anonymous and share as much or as little as you want about your personal experience. This midlife crisis forum is really about learning and understanding what you’re experiencing and finding a way to heal. We help each other get better and take comfort in shared experiences. I hope you'll join the conversation and discover how helpful it can be.
In the bullet points below are a couple of popular articles where you can get started.
Editor's Note: This post was originally published February 25, 2016 and has been updated with new information for accuracy and comprehensiveness.
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I have been married almost 35 years to my husband. He has been distant and cold fir about 2 months. He told me on New Years day he is no longer interested in sex with me. As a matter of a fact he doesnt show any affection. We had a talk and he said he is not interested in anyone else, not sure I believe him? We sleep in separate beds in the same room. He doesn't text me anymore to see how the day is going. After a momentary sexual uncounted with him last week,he announced rather angrily,that he doesnt love me and never will! I was devastated. We previously had a conversation about staying married. He said he loves me and didn't want a divorce.confusion on my part. Now he says he just doesn't care about anything, that nothing matters. He said he cares about his friends, male and female and his daughters. He said I could live in tbe house as long as I want to. Finances are difficult. I see signs of depression for awhile now. So lost, he refuses to discuss our marriage future. Says get a divirce if you want to. Hes not getting one.I have tried to tell him I live him, support him,and respect him. Deaf ears, but I said it.I am trying to be living and respectful, and caring even though it hurts like hell. Don't know what else to do. Praise, respect ,Hard to communicate with someone who shuts you down.
Our society & the medical community (most therapists included) is uneducated about MLC. Those of you who gave up are ego driven, & clearly didn't really love your spouse to begin with. MLC is a mental disorder, & the person going thru it often has no idea or memory of their actions. Would you leave your spouse if they had cancer? Would you leave them if they had been committed to a mental institution? Without the intervention of medical professionals (not an option in our society), your only option is to give space, better yourself, & if you love them be patient, understanding, & VERY STRONG. There is a wealth of information on the web on do's & don't's, but the bottom line is you CANNOT fix them. Either weather the storm (for better or worse), or don't (self-centered, egotistical).
I find your post to be rather judgmental and egotistical. There is no proof that MLC is an illness like cancer. Many of us were abused to the point of considering suicide ourselves. I ideated suicide for months and finally I went and got myself some help. That included therapy, medication,going no contact,and filing for divorce. No one should have to live through that kind of abuse. If that makes me egotistical so be it. I am living in peace now and rebuilding my life. Abuse is a deal breaker. Infidelity is a deal breaker, even in the bible. If that is acceptable for you, that is fine. I am not judging, but most people cannot withstand that kind of pain. I don't think every hurting spouse on this site has an ego problem. They are being shattered.
There is no recognized mental health disorder called ‘MLC’ in the DSM, or recognized by any accredited medical/mental health organization.
There is this thing called NPD recognized by the DSM, which just happens to match up with many of the ‘symptoms’ of what people call ‘MLC’ and is generally considered incurable by the legitimate mental health community. ‘Real’ (medically recognized) mental health issues, generally have a significant cause (brain/function abnormality, stunted personality/emotional development, chemical imbalance, severe abuse, traumatic event, etc.). An individual simply hitting their 40’s-50’s is no more of a ‘mental illness’, than the ‘terrible two’s’, adolescence, transitioning from your 20’s to your 30’s, hitting age 65/retirement age, or any other notable age change.
Dena, I am responding to your post. I tried everything with my ex...space, waiting, changed myself, you name it I did it. I loved that man with everything in me and then some! He tore my heart, shocked my mind and soul, I had to move on before I had a mental breakdown. So don't criticize or judge the ones that gave up...we gave our all and got nothing in return. Besides he's with his new lady still that he had a affair with, good luck to the both of them. If they would put more information out on MLC some marriages may make it, but without the knowledge of what your up against you finally after trying so so hard to keep your family together...you Give Up!!! I did and I am doing just fine!
Linda brings up another good point. How would you stay married to someone that leaves you for another and insists upon divorce? What if they remarry? Are you supposed to keep waiting and hoping they will someday return? It is known to happen, on occasion, but I think the odds are against it. Anyway, no thanks. He would need a character transplant.
I was just wondering has anyone's husband or wife been diagnosed with dementia years after symptoms started? Most mlc symptoms are similar to dementia symptoms. Not sure what my husband has.