What should I do if I think I Am Falling Out Of Love? Learn what it takes to stop Falling Out Of Love, feel in-love again and have a happy relationship.
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Being told by your husband that he doesn’t love you anymore is devastating. The crushing pain that comes along with that message can leave you believing that things are hopeless.
Fortunately, for many that may not be truly the case.
Wives tell me “My husband doesn't love me anymore" all the time in couples counseling. Sadly, many husbands confirm this sentiment, claiming not to be in love their wives any longer either.
Often the husbands who feel they no longer love their wives have only agreed to counseling just to check the box before they end things through separation or divorce.
The good news is that for many couples those feelings of being out of love are just a complicated mask for problems that can have a resolution. And seeking counseling gives them the opportunity to learn what that can look like.
It’s not unusual for many husbands (wives too) to feel like they just aren't "in love" with their spouses anymore.
Falling out of love really shouldn't be that surprising to anyone.
Change is a part of life, and that includes changes to relationships. Those changes inevitably involve the way spouses feel toward one another and this can mean no longer feeling in love with our partners.
What many don’t realize is that these changes in the love they feel can be a normal process within a long-term relationship and doesn’t have to mean the end.
Often people assume the infatuation and excitement they feel at the beginning of a relationship will be the way it feels forever. That’s simply not the case.
Those feelings eventually mellow and change. Too many people see those changes as a bad sign and mistakenly think that their love must be fading.
In addition, life and all the stress and busyness that comes with it can pull couples apart and make the feeling of love seem nonexistent.
Eventually, frustration and disillusionment can set in, leading to a lack of intimacy. For men in particular, issues with intimacy can be tied directly to feelings of love.
As partners grow and change so do the relationships in which they’re involved. As those changes occur couples are doing one of two things -- either growing together or apart.
Often the natural forces of life are going to cause us to grow apart, unless we do things to counter that process.
So, is there anything you can do to change that?
Yes!
Here the final things you can do to get your husband back in love with you:
I hear from a lot of women who really struggle when they read these suggestions. They feel so unloved and rejected by their husbands that my recommending they love him when he doesn’t love them seems wrong, unfair, and impossible.
I totally understand how they feel. But if you're saying "My husband doesn't love me anymore" then you've got 2 choices -- either accept that he doesn't love you or do something to change it.
I'm not recommending you do these 5 things forever without receiving any love from your husband in return. I'm simply recommending that you be the first to start putting love back into your marriage (if you feel you’re already doing this, then dig a bit deeper and try some new approaches).
Feeling like your husband no longer loves you can make many women shutdown and begin to build walls around their hearts. Hearing “I don’t love you anymore” directly from your husband can accelerate that process and make it harder to stop drifting apart.
And I understand that being told to show love by using the steps above to someone who doesn’t reciprocate seems unfair and can create resentment.
So, if you feel your husband doesn’t love you anymore, keep the following things in mind:
If you’re saying, “My husband doesn’t love me anymore,” you can choose to accept it and move on, or try to save your marriage. But isn’t it likely you’d regret not trying?
Give the suggestions above a try for 90 days and see what happens. What have you got to lose?
Editor's Note: This post was originally published May 4, 2010, updated on June 29, 2014, December 12, 2019, and has been updated again for accuracy and comprehensiveness.
This is the second article of two on 5 things you can do when you feel my husband doesn't love me anymore. You can read the first 2 to do's by checking out Part 1: My Husband Doesn't Love Me - 5 Things You Can Do About It.
What should I do if I think I Am Falling Out Of Love? Learn what it takes to stop Falling Out Of Love, feel in-love again and have a happy relationship.
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I am very grateful to have encountered this article,,Its happening to me right now. My wife talks everyday to an outside co-worker. They usually talk between the hours of 8pm and 10pm. She does tell me they talk because he sees her as his sister! She talks about him all the time, his dreams and goals within the company. She seems to happy to be on the phone with him. He supposedly is married with kids but that never stops affairs from happening, that I can tell. Ive had thoughts of finding him or confronting her but I have also heard that could drive them closer together. Not sure what to do. I just feel lonely and stuck.
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Hello. I just want to share my experience here. My husband told me that he doesn't love me anymore. He wants to have his life in his own, to find his purpose in life and to figure out on what he's capable of in terms of his career, alone. I am so depressed up to until now. He don't want to save our marriage. I am giving him space and time to think. On my part, I do really want to save our marriage and to for him to love me back. We don't have kids right now, maybe he's to brave to leave me. What should I do? Thank you.
Jeyyah, I created a video series that will show you exactly what you should do. Click the Help Now button at the top if the screen to learn more about it. -Dr. Kurt